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Being a lesbian Christian…


Before I start, I wanna say that my thoughts and prayers are with everyone that’s affected by extreme weather situations and everything else. That’s everyone in Africa, Asia as well as those in the southern USA.

I’m not gonna say that circumstances like this aren’t horrible, because of course they are, and I’m not gonna say that Americans shouldn’t be thinking mostly about the people affected by the extreme weather in Texas and so on, because of course they should do, and they will. Especially those who may have friends or family in those areas.

But I will say this: It’s the same thing when we have had terrorist attacks recently, it seems like we only really do a “pray for…” or “do donations and buy things for…” when it’s in a specific Western country, whether it’s the USA, or France, or something like that. When it comes to something like Africa – Sierra Leone, for example – or Asia – India, Bangladesh are suffering from floods and something like 1,200 dead and over 15 million people are homeless and suffering. This is happening right now.

And at the same time – and this has been going on for a while – there are serious problems in Myanmar, where Rohingya Muslims are fleeing fighting that is happening there. And they’re fleeing to Bangladesh, which can only add to the problems currently happening in Bangladesh.

And that’s got to be a concern. No matter where you are in the world, everyone’s lives are just as important as anyone else. Of course, if something happened here in the UK and I know that some friends or family are close by or possibly caught in the storm or whatever, of course I’m gonna be concerned and praying and thinking of them and everything else, and that will obviously takes priority over whatever else’s happening in the world, but if you’re not a part of it – say it happened in the USA, or in Bangladesh for me – I have to ask: Why should a disaster that happened in one of those countries should merit more concern than the other? Answer: They shouldn’t. And so my thoughts and prayers are with everyone in every place that is suffering right now.

Also, I saw, with trepidition, that a bunch of evangelists “Christians” have released what they’re calling the “Nashville Statement”. Well… I’ve had a look at it, and quite frankly, I’m disgusted. It seems to be trying to push 19th Century idealogies onto the 21st Century (Disclaimer: that statement isn’t something I thought up myself, I saw it on twitter when I was trying to find the source of the farcial statement – and no, I’m not linking to the source – and it’s just perfect, I can’t possibly improve on that so I thought I’ll re-quote it. I dunno the tweeter’s name, I can’t find it now.)

Honestly, I’m not really surprised. The evangelists have always been one of the bad part of Christianity. They’re basically the fundamentalists that you see appear in every religion. And I have utter contempt for them and anyone that actually believe them, because all those evangelists are concerned with is making money. How much money do they skim off in order to build another wing for their multiple massive mansions?

The only response I will say is this: The Christian faith I follow and believe in, believes in a God who treats everyone with love, and that same God does not condemns anyone for how they feel – and that includes people who are LGBT+. I do not for one moment think that He will condemns me just because I’m a lesbian.

Especially since I didn’t choose to be a lesbian, it’s just how I am. Just like I didn’t choose to be deaf. It’s just how I am.

I think God is more concerned with how people acts than how they feel or what religion they believe in (or not, as the case may be). You could claim to be the most wonderful and perfect Christian there is, but if your actions are discriminatory and seeks to ruins others just because they’re LGBT+ or because they follow a different religion or because they’re disabled, or something along those lines… My feeling is, God will say “Nope, you’re not a Christian.”

Likewise – and I believe I said this before – I don’t think God would push anyone away for following a different religion to another. Again, it goes down to how you think and acts towards others. Doesn’t matter if you’re a Christian or a Muslim or a Buddhist or anything like that.

The last thing I wanted to write about is… Well, there was a bit of news lately about this Muslim foster family taking in a Christian girl of about 5, and the alleged actions that they took.

Before I go any further, I must stress this: The council and the judge ruling over the case has investigate and found nothing that should cause any “undue concerns”, so it could just be the media – especially if you know which media outlet everyone was quoting (not naming them, but just know that they’re the most prominent right-wing outlet in the UK, and have a history of supporting Nazis…) – being stupid again and trying to provoke outrageous reactions in their readers who are probably just as right-wing as the media outlet.

(UPDATE: Just found out that the right-wing media outlet was guilty of far more than what people originally thought they did – the mother of the child in question is a Muslim. So the right-wing nazi outlet was deliberately withholding information trying to incite hatred… Seriously, that should be treated as an criminal act.)

So, what I will say is this: Should it ever turns out that I becomes a foster carer or adopt children, and I get asked to foster a child brought up in the Islamic faith, this is what I would do: I would research – and ask, if necessary – how best to allow (probably a poor choice of words) that child’s faith to be continued, whether it’s making sure I have a quiet area for them to carry out their daily prayers sessions, or how best to take them to a mosque and be around for when it finishes, or otherwise. And if the child does ask about my own Christian faith, I will answer as honestly and truthfully as I can without seeking to “convert” (such a vulgar term) them to Christianity, just answer their questions and leave it at that. What I will not do is tell them their faith is the wrong faith, tell them particular occasions are stupid, or anything like that.

Okay… Think that’s everything that I wanted to write about right now. Hopefully everyone everywhere will be able to get everything back to normal soon, and I’ll write again soon!

A mixed week…

Heya! How’s your week been going? Hopefully it’s all been going decent for you and all!

Me… Ehh… It’s been a bit of a mixed week, I have to say. House-wise, things are progressing and sometimes next week, everything will be complete. Apparently. *gulps* I still dunno if I’m really all that ready to be a house-owner, but… You know, I’ve gone this far, might as well see it through and hopefully it’ll all work out. Hopefully!

Job-wise, well… I’ll be honest, I have been looking, but I think there’s a part of me that’s pretty much saying, “wait until you’ve moved and settled down…” Which, I guess makes sense. Mind, it’s not like that I’ve seen that many jobs that’s suitable for me yet. Doesn’t stop people from trying to send me absolute ridiculous job offers, though. I even had one that asked if I’d want to apply for a SQL manager position in Krakow, Poland. *shakes head* *shudders* Can you even _imagine_ the problems I’d have with that. A Manager position, managers goes through a lot of meetings and everything else, not to mention the fact that it’d all be in Polish… I have enough trouble with English already, thank you very much!

Not to mention the fact that we are talking about Poland. Let’s just say that their reputation for black people, or LGBT+ people, isn’t exactly… sterling? Not as bad as a particularly large country eastwards, but certainly not the best. *shakes head* Needless to say… I deleted that e-mail without even bothering to reply.

Oh yeah, the Polish thing… Well, I am of the firm belief that, if you are going to go and work in another country, which speaks a different language to you – for example, Polish in Poland – you should be expected and willing to learn that language, and start to do so before you even go there. You cannot, and should not, expect everyone in that country to be able to speak your own language to you. There are exceptions, of course – refugees, etc – but by and large… If you’re planning on going to work in a country that speaks a different language to you, you should be willing to communicate in that country’s language. Same for every country. If you plan to work in Britain, you should be willing to learn English, you go to Spain, be willing to learn Spanish, and so on.

As for other people that e-mailed me… Well, most of them asked for a phone number. As usual. And when I say I dun have a phone due to being deaf… Their “interest” definitely vanished! *rolls eyes*

Whatever… Like I say, it’s probably for the best because it does means I’ll have a bit more time to focus on actually getting everything done regarding moving and everything else…

Games-wise… Well, I’m getting back to playing seriously (while still having fun) and writing my own kind of self-guides as to how to play it. You know, should I ever want to play that game again! *grins*

Writing… Well, I’m writing. It’s still mostly the guide thing, though. I’m still hoping that by doing the guide-writing, I’ll be able to start focusing again on story and Yore! stuff. Although, again, I think there’s a part of me that’s whispering, “…wait until you move…”, but I dun really want to, to be honest.

…The problem with waiting is, there’s this kind of like… big expectation that by moving, I’m gonna magically find more time, I’m gonna feel a lot better, a lot more relaxed and everything else? That’s… Not gonna happen. The move will be good for me, but I need to bring my expectations down somewhat. Otherwise, well… It could be a big knock to the confidence that I’ve got right now.

…Still… Guess things will be moving on quicker from next week, so… Might as well take the time to relax while I still can, right? *grins*

Okay, I’ll stop here for now, but I will write another post tomorrow, okay? See you soon!

Reaction and a promise…

Heya guys… So. I’ve been up since around 2, 3am because I was really worried about the US election, and the fact that I have friends who live there, plus there are people that I follow on Twitter and who I care about – whether it’s because of things they do or otherwise – and pretty much every one of them will be affected for the worse because of the… choice made by a goodly number of people.

And, having just got out of work (well, about an hour and half ago now), I can finally sit down and try to put my thoughts and feelings into words. Not about the election itself, that’s done. The people, for better or worse, have decided and the choice that I dreaded was gonna happens ever since it was clear it was gonna be between two decidingly unpopular people, happened.

I’ve already said that if it had been Sanders or anyone else, they would’ve won easily. And I still think that would’ve been the case. Unfortunately… Didn’t turn out that way. (No offence to those that genuinely liked Clinton, but if I’m honest, I would only have voted for her to keep the other one out. There were things she’s done that I did not agree with, and I’m not talking about the e-mails thing, that didn’t even come into the equation for me.)

No, what I want to write about is the impact that it will have on people.

Even here, in the UK, I was going around the shops at lunchtime today, and I spotted more than a couple of people looking at me odd. The general impression I had from them was if they thought they could say something, it would be along the lines of “Why haven’t you *censored* off back to Africa yet?” Ever since the whole Brexit decision came about, the number of people that I’ve noticed looking at me, taking in the colour of my skin and all that, have increased. I’m sure there’s been more than a few comments made in my direction, but thankfully… Being deaf, I dun normally pick them up. And no-one (so far!) have come right up and shouted in my face or anything.

I means, I get the occasional glare made in my direction every now and then. It’s never a nice thing, but I’ve learnt (sadly, you kind of have to, when you’re black and all) to pretty much ignore them. But you do tends to notice when that number increased. And it definitely has after the whole Brexit vote.

But like I say, I’m deaf, so I don’t normally hear anything people say. I can certainly imagine there’s been more than a few unpleasant comments, though. And yes, people do pick on that as well. I remember, when I was at school, someone – I never seen the guy before, but he somehow knew I was deaf – he stopped me on the way to class and asked if I knew sign-language, I said only the alphabet, and he gave me the middle finger and said “what’s this, then?” and walked off laughing. And that was just one example of many I could’ve picked. Thankfully, nothing like that happened in the streets, or at work. So far…

Yeah. I’m kind of hoping it’s not as immediately noticeable, but… I’m all too aware that my being deaf is the only reason I’m not hearing more comments.

And when you add to that the fact that I’m a lesbian… Oh my, I can only imagine the reaction those people would give if they’d saw me holding hands or kissing another lady! I kind of want to do that, tell the whole world they can just get lost, they’re not gonna suppress me or stop me from loving my (hypothetical) girlfriend. But… Still single, still got a long way to go before I can feel like I can be a great girlfriend for the right lady.

But I know that there will be people out there who will treat any sight of me kissing another lady with revulsion and disgust, and will probably do whatever they can to ruin things for us.

And that’s what I’ve been seeing happens. There’s this wonderful, beautiful couple, two lovely ladies that I follows on twitter (well, I’ve checked out their twitter accounts on numerous occasions before finally deciding to follow them), they’ve just recently engaged, which I totally screamed about, and even though it’s only been a few hours since the results, they’ve already received text messages and the like basically laughing at them and saying they’ll never get married or anything. What sort of total nonsensical messed up reaction is that??

There’s this lady that I follow, who’s been involved in some of the best VNs I’ve ever read – Astoria: Fate’s Kiss and everything else, who’s had to pluck up the courage to speak out and fight to get a lesbian relationship route in the first VN she contributed to, and now, because of that, there’s one in every VN that the company she works for does. What’s the betting that, because of what’s happened, people are gonna make things harder for her to give people like me a chance to read wonderful WLW stories?

Or how about this fantastic artist, who’s born in Argentina, has a boyfriend (8 years and counting) in the USA, spends a lot of time in the USA, doing artwork and conventions groups and everything else… Can you imagine just how much more difficult it could be for her to do what she’s currently doing right now?

Not to mention some of the other people and groups that I follow and all. POCs, and those that want to make sure that the black voice isn’t silenced? I know from experience, and from those that I talk to that they get a lot of abuse. Even my best friend, who lives in America, she gets a lot of abuse online. Just because of her skin colour, and she like playing games online with her group of friends. And what about those people who fights against homophobia or transphobia? Or any other kind of phobia? Can you even begin to imagine just how many people are gonna abuse them? When all they’re trying to do is make lives better for the LGBT+ community?

And that’s why I’m writing this, in the end. I’m not gonna tell anyone to be strong, I’m not gonna tell anyone it’s gonna get better, or anything like that. Because we all of us have totally different reactions when something like this happens. And even though the USA is currently trying to get back to the 19th Century, or something like that, and I’m in the UK, and there’s so little I can do… I wanna give them, all those people that I’m gonna mention and everyone else that I follow or who follow me, and those that I don’t know and probably never will know, this one thing: No matter what, I’m never ever gonna stop fighting, and whatever happens, if there’s even one small thing I can do for you, I’ll do it.

That’s a promise to all the people I love and care about. Trice, Crystal, Carys, Kali, Lauren, Shouri, everyone. And to all the people and organisations that try to help black people, like Media Diversified, or the LGBT+ community, like Trans United.

You will always have my love and support. *hugs*